Category Archives: People I Adore
In the past 6 months, I’ve really evaluated the people in my work life. Being an introvert, I’m always particular about my personal friends, but business contacts and colleagues I always tried to keep everyone happy and be there for everyone. And I’ve got to say, if that’s how you are working your business, STOP RIGHT NOW! You can not and should not be working with and pleasing everybody.
People work really hard to get good reputations. They work hard, do the right things (most of the time), always watch their Ps and Qs (again, most of the time). Lol. But what people don’t consider is that who they associate with on a business level also affects their reputation.
I first encountered this years and years ago when I was working for a rental car company in their management program. I interviewed for a promotion, but what I found out later completely appalled me. The wife of one of the top managers there was my friend and she was told that I was by far the best choice for the position, but the direct manager said no because he hated the manager I was currently working for. So basically, I got hosed because of who I was associated with. Sucks.
Fast forward many years later and I had my own make-up business. Being freelance, you never know when your next paycheck is going to come, so when you first start, you tend to make the erroneous decision to accept every client that comes in because, hey, you gotta pay your electric bill this month. There were quite a few clients that while they were consistent, they definitely did not mesh with the image and reputation I was working to build. They consistently booked me, but also consistently wanted discounts and freebies. They made lots and lots of mistakes that in turn made me look bad. And other work colleagues were absolute liars that put me in the most ridiculous (and heartbreaking) situations.
It wasn’t until I realized that these toxic people needed to be out of my career in order for me to move forward. I will admit, I was scared shitless when I told each of these people that I no longer wished to work with them. I mean, there’s no easy way to say it. With one client, I just told him that my rates had recently changed (I hadn’t raised my rates in 5 years) and that I could no longer provide the discounts he was accustomed to as I felt that I had already proved my worth. He stopped using me, and you know what? I am completely ok with that. I no longer have any last minute stresses of him needing me in 30 minutes only to earn $20. Another client I did the exact same thing to and guess what…he said, “ok” and continues to book me, but at my full rate now. He respects me more now too.
The “mistakes” client I was simply up front with. I told the client that I was no longer available due to the multiple serious communications errors that were not only affecting me, but also the members of my team who work with me loyally due to the respect they have for me. And the liar…it just caused enough atrocities that it was easy to end that one. I just quit that client cold turkey.
Was it difficult to come to these decisions? ABSOLUTELY! Is it awkward when I see these people? ABSOLUTELY! How can it not be. Am I glad that I did this? ABSOLUTELY!
Since siphoning out my bad colleagues and clients, my work has actually grown, and grown A LOT! I’m now working on multiple projects with some amazing people that respect me, trust me, and that actually help my reputation get better and better.
So, if you feel stuck in your work right now, take a look at WHO you are around. Get rid of the un-classy people (in a classy way of course) and see what leaps and bounds your business takes. It will be ridiculously scary saying no to a paycheck, but it is so very much worth it. You work hard for your reputation, don’t let other people ruin it.
And to those clients of mine that I am currently working with…Shirley, Scott, Val, Adrenna, Susan…love you guys!
One of the classiest things (and not to mention budget-friendly) is cultivating great relationships with people. It doesn’t cost you a thing and yet it can bring you so much!
I have a colleague that I met a couple years ago. I had hired her as the hair/make-up artist for a project I was doing and loved her from the get-go.
Through the years, anytime that I had a project in which I needed assistance, she was always the first person on my list. She’s super sweet, extremely reliable (something that is sadly rare in today’s age) and not to mention obscenely talented!
How talented might you ask? Check it out!
Utter fabulousity! Right!!! My boring brown hair was completely functional (it covered my grays) but seriously lacked in the form part of it. I mean, come on! I work in a creative field! Shouldn’t I have creative hair to match???
She touched-up my roots and then used the bayalage technique to handpaint in luscious caramel highlights.
Then she got to work chop-chopping away at my snooze-fest of a bob. First up was some serious texturizing all around. I wanted to keep a bunch of my length, but desperately needed a new lease on hair. She finished the cut by adding some great bangs. I don’t know why I always poo-poo bangs. I look pretty darn good in them!
Now, here’s where great relationships come in handy! We negotiated…she did my hair and I cooked her a super yummy, healthy dinner and gave her two large bags of produce fresh from my backyard in exchange for a discount on my services. If you have great relationships with people, then this sort of thing is possible. But if you have a bad reputation in business…then forget about it! Your reputation and business relationships are EVERYTHING in life. And it doesn’t cost you anything to maintain positive ones.
Always strive to do the right things, treat people the right way. It most definitely pays off. In this instance, I got not just good hair days, but GREAT hair days!
And my super cool shades…Dollar Store BABY!!!
Super special thanks to the insanely talented Melissa Dawn Edwards of Southwestern Styling. Www.southwesternstyling.com
I am such a happy camper right now and here’s why…
Oh yes!!! That’s right! That’s my new iPhone case! Gorgeous, isn’t it! Jealous, aren’t you!
It’s a custom/hand-made/one-of-a-kind piece designed just for me by the uber-fabulous Erin Fader of Erin Fader Jewelry Design (www.erinfader.com). She makes the most stunning jewelry that TOTALLY fits in with my mantra of “being classy on a budget”.
I first met Erin over a year ago. She was an accessories designer participating in a RAW Artists Showcase here in San Diego (www.rawartists.org/sandiego) and I was her make-up artist. Immediately I fell in love with her pieces and once I got a chance to actually get to know her, she is the most sweetest person you will ever meet! She epitomizes class and bring warmth and joy to everyone around her so much that you can actually feel her love ooze from her pieces. That feeling makes me love my new iPhone case that much more (as if that could be possible!). 🙂
Now we are both a part of FGI San Diego (Fashion Group International) (http://sandiego.fgi.org/), she is going to meet some amazing contacts and most definitely have her line picked up in all the swanky stores. I’ll have to buy up the stuff I want now before I can no longer afford her! 😉
You can check out and purchase her line on her website (www.erinfader.com) as well as send her a message regarding commissioning one-of-a-kind pieces (she’s doing my iPad case next to match my iPhone! Can’t wait!).
Here’s another picture of my new baby sitting in her phone stand on my desk…
And a picture of uber-excited me when Erin delivered it last night…
Thanks Erin! YOU ROCK!!!!